For Baby’s Sake practitioners continue to work every day with mums and dads who have experienced trauma in their lives - and yet really want to make changes, to break cycles of abuse and to protect their babies and children. In a recent therapeutic session, a father was supported to understand how his use of instrumental emotions* and judgements on his co-parent was having a negative effect on their co-parenting. The episode had been triggered by a media report on COVID-19, which heightened tensions in the home resulting in the loss of focus on their baby and child. This family is on their own journey - making a transition from ‘intimate' to a ‘co-parenting' relationship. Our For Baby's Sake practitioner was able to provide the dad with strategies to contain and process his emotions and restore his focus. Subsequent feedback from dad was both welcome and reassuring.
*Instrumental emotions are a display of emotion used to trigger a feeling in somebody else, these can be described as ’showing’ an emotion for effect, rather than ‘feeling’ the emotion for real.